Extracts from
Chiara Lubichs address
at the University of Malta
26/02/99.
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In the certainty that God is Love-also-for-me lies
the basis of that psychological security which gives sense to life
By harmonising ones own will with a Transcendent will,
one free oneself from interior and exterior conditioning
Only a relationship with the other, which is not violence or
conditioning, is to love them as themselves
I fulfil myself completely as a person when I
freely affirm the other, even at the cost of my own life
From the psychic illness due to the refusal of suffering to
Jesuss yes on the cross: human nature reaches the divine...
The integral Self is found in those who are able to empty themselves,
efface themselves, in order to enrich themselves in communion with others
... A lived communion being a relationship of
love, of giving to others ...
Chancellor, Magnificent Rector,
Honorable Professors,
Ladies, Gentlemen, my dear friends.
Our Movement can also be viewed from a theological point of view, or a philosophical one,
or why not? also from a psychological and pedagogical point of view.
With reference to some aspects of the psychological dimension, let us consider the main
points of our spirituality.
In
the certainty that God is Love-also-for-me
lies the basis of that psychological security which gives sense to life
The first point is God who is Love.
It is an established fact in psychology that the most basic need of
every person is to be recognized in his or her unique and unrepeatable identity, and thus
not to be considered a number or an object.
Normally this certainty derives from ones parents and family, from personal talents
or from the education one has received
. Through this one feels he is himself,
distinct from others. But all these factors can be relativized (if others do not recognize
him, do not understand him, do not esteem him, one can be overwhelmed by a sense of
meaninglessness and depression
).
The discovery and the acquired certainty that God loves him or her, wanted him to exist
(and therefore one is not an object of pure chance or blind fate) is the basis for that
psychological certainty which gives meaning to ones life and a purpose for existing.
Only the certainty that God is love "also for you", gives you the strength to
continually go out of yourself in order to live and love and create a social communion.
By harmonising ones own will with a Transcendent will,
one free oneself from interior and exterior
conditioning
Another point of the
spirituality is doing the will of God.
It is well known that the psychic development of the person (of the Ego) begins with an
initial phase of "narcissism" (being concentrated exclusively on oneself,
ones own needs and pleasure) and then progressively the field of relations expands
(to members of the family, and later school and society). It has been said too that this
development should reach the point of a rapport with a transcendent being other than
oneself (the "transcendent You") after having overcome the final obstacle to
full maturity which is ones Ego. (Igor Caruso)
In other words, freeing the Ego from all interior and exterior conditioning and in the end
recognizing its inherent relativity (ceasing to defend it, as being opposed to God and
others) means accepting oneself as he or she is without masks, coordinating ones own
will with the will of a transcendent Being.
And this leads to perfection, even on a human level. If Gods will is to love
ones neighbour, to "make oneself one" with ones neighbour, as a
result one must give up defending oneself, transcending ones own self in others and,
definitively, in The Other ("
you did it to Me").
It has been stated: "Persons who fulfill themselves have, in effect, deeper
interpersonal relations with others
They are capable of greater fusion, greater
love, more perfect identification with others, a deeper reduction of the barrier of the
ego than others deem possible".
Only
a relationship with the other, which is not violence or conditioning,
is to love them as themselves
Other points of our spirituality are love and
mutual love.
The fact that God is Love and that His will coincides with love, and therefore with loving
ones neighbour, is confirmed not only by Jesus' teachings but also by the
psychological experience of interpersonal relations. The only relationship which is not a
relationship of violence or conditioning, but which recognizes and respects the
"person" of the other as a transcendent being, is the relationship of
"loving others as oneself". Not only does my love confirm the other as a being
distinct from me, equal to me, and transcendent like me, but this same love also
establishes my own personal "existence".
Only love takes into account differences (or distinctness) while safeguarding equality,
thereby making unity possible.
I fulfil myself completely as a person
when I freely affirm the other, even at the cost of
my own life
The novelty of the culture that Jesus brought
lies in the radically new relationships between individuals.
Before Jesus, mutual relations were based on the affinity of blood or class, on particular
interests or exclusively extrinsic aims. With Jesus all these motivations become less
important because each man or woman realizes that he or she has a transcendent value, to
the very point of representing God for others ("Whatever you do to the least of
these
you do to Me" (Jn. 12:25).
The psychological relevance of the dynamics in
question is clear. If we consider the case of maximal relations, I become a person in the
highest sense when I freely and consciously affirm others, even at the cost of my own
life. Jesus expressed this dynamic reality with the words: "No one has greater love
than this: to lay down ones life" for others.
In other terms, no one is more self, more person, than he or she who transcends him or
herself, denying him or herself in order to save the transcendence of another (a case in
point would be Jesus or Father Kolbe or Mother Teresa
). This is the most authentic
"humanism" that can be conceived or attained.
From
the psychic illness due to the refusal of suffering to Jesuss yes on the cross:
human nature reaches the divine...
Jesus crucified and forsaken.
The psychological law of becoming mature as a human being is also defined by the spiritual
law proclaimed by Jesus. "He who loves his life will lose it, he who is ready to lose
his life
will save it for eternal life" (Jn. 12:25).
In the process of becoming mature, in fact, one cannot reach a new phase without detaching
oneself from and renouncing the previously acquired level (the weaning of a child is a
painful passage, but one that is necessary for growing up; accepting the arrival of a new
baby brother or sister is another painful passage from the egotistical position of being
the centre of attention to a phase of socialization, which means the relativization of
self in order to become integrated with others in a whole; transcending oneself in an
"us").
It is well known that psychological illness always
arises from a refusal to accept the suffering of this passage (in order to remain
comfortably in the situation one is already in and is acquainted with) out of fear of what
is "new" or fear of "others", who appear merely as threats who could
limit or depersonalize me.
In fact when one refuses communion with others in order to save his or her own Self (the
fear of becoming an object, of being taken advantage of, of being sucked or swallowed up
by others, as psychologists would say), at this point psychologically speaking (and also
spiritually speaking) one is already dead.
For C.G. Jung, the highest possible level of human pesonalization was expressed by Jesus
when He cried out on the cross: "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?"
because in the precise moment when God experiences human mortality his human nature
reaches the divine
The
integral Self is found in those who are able to empty themselves,
efface themselves, in order to enrich themselves in communion with others
One thing that comes into evidence in persons who
live the Word, is that an authentic person is a simple person and being simple, such a
person is free. Every kind of attachment to ones self or to things destroys the
Self, disrupts it, both by favouring pride and self-satisfaction and by building up that
"false Self" which psychologists call ego.
The problem of man today is the need to build an integral Self, freeing it from the
tendency of ego. To put it in other terms, to free it from every kind of avidity and
possessiveness. The integral Self is found in those who are able to empty themselves,
efface themselves, in order to enrich themselves in communion with others.
And all this is Gospel teaching.
Mary is an icon or image of this self-effacement, especially in her desolation at the foot
of her crucified Son, whom she had to lose. But that immense emptiness can embrace and
contain all Gods children.
...
A lived communion being a relationship of love, of giving to others
...
Psychologically speaking, it is
impossible for a person to have a "sense of his or her identity" if there are
not others who recognize this person as a subject.
Psychologists of all the various schools of thought state that human beings need to
confirm one another in their individuality through genuine encounters and personal
contact.
In fact we need to feel that we are "different" and be recognized as such in
order to become a gift for others.
But in order to be a personal gift we must enter into communion with others.
Here lies the difference between what are called "psychological groups" and the
Christian community as Jesus meant it to be. A psychological group is made up of
individuals who associate for some particular aim (as a sports club, a civil organization,
a political or religious association, a labour union, a college, a seminar
). As a
result they interact on a limited scale regarding those common interests they are pursuing
together, remaining for all other purposes, each closed in ones own world.
Diversely, the Christian community is not a result of extrinsic motivations, but of the
very nature of love which creates communion.
That this is possible has been proved by experience. It is clear that the motivation
behind it derives from Jesus' invitation: "Love one another as I have loved you
May they all be one
" and is thus of a religious nature. Yet there are
extraordinary effects on a psychological level as well. Each person, in fact, in being in
a relationship of love towards others is fulfilled not only as an individual but also as a
collective person, as a "we".
This, briefly, is the spirituality of unity from the point of view of psychology.
Today our Movement is being given an award, and so it is being put like a light on a
stand.
May it be for the glory of God and to encourage us to go forward. At the same time we
cannot fail to express our deep and heartfelt thanks to those who were instrumental in our
receiving this recognition.
(02-03-2002) |